Failure of Goals

The failure of goals exists in the dark shadow that accompanies each one we set for ourselves. Goals do not exist without the threat of failure; were it not for the very possibility of failure, a goal would not be a goal; it would be readily achievable and therefore a reality. What drives us every day is not the shining beacon of potential success but rather fear of the abyss of failure and whatever disappointing or even devastating psychosocial signals that accompany it. This dangerous dichotomy unfortunately persists even once we achieve the goal we initially set out for; this is why, no matter how much we gain, earn, produce, win, own, create, name or claim, we are rarely, if ever, satisfied. The burning fear of failure shadows each success, and propels us forward to the next marker of achievement. This is the rope which keeps us bound to an existence marked by judgement and criticism--of ourselves and often of others. To loosen this tie we must not strain further in the direction of greater goals and successes, since that strain only thrusts us deeper into the shadow of fear. Perhaps instead we can relax our rigid expectations, reign in our goals closer and closer to our true selves until we eclipse them, and the shadows of failure, in the essence of who we truly are. In this way we are free to progress organically and creatively in the direction or directions that most suit us, instead of down those linear paths we have convinced ourselves we should follow. Without goals, the shadow of failure has no source and we are unlimited in our potential.